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My Philosophy and Therapeutic Approach

Hi, welcome! I recently updated my website to include more information on my therapeutic approach, and I wanted to share it here too.

But first, A Bit About My Philosophy

I often say, "I am human first, therapist second." To me, saying "I am human first, therapist second" emphasizes the fundamental aspect of my humanity in all interactions, including those within my therapeutic practice. It signifies that while I hold the role of a therapist and am committed to supporting others in their journey, I am also navigating my own human experiences, vulnerabilities, and growth. It reminds me to approach therapy with empathy, authenticity, and humility, acknowledging that I am not immune to the complexities of life and the need for connection and understanding. This perspective allows me to establish genuine rapport and connection with my clients, fostering a therapeutic environment grounded in mutual respect, compassion, and shared humanity.

With nearly a decade of diverse experience including schools, nonprofits, community mental health clinics, and private practice, I’ve had the privilege of helping hundreds of clients in their self-discovery and healing journey. My passion lies in guiding individuals towards clarity. I enjoy helping my clients rebuild their sense of self and confidence, practice self-kindness and acceptance of their feelings, break unhelpful behavioral patterns, and embrace fluid thinking (less rigidity, negativity, and perfectionism!). 

In my practice, I hold firm to several guiding principles:

  • Trauma doesn’t define you: Your past experiences do not dictate your future.

  • The key is inside of you: Each individual holds the innate ability to heal and grow.

  • Deserving of better feelings: You deserve to experience joy, peace, and fulfillment.

  • Worthiness of love and care: Embracing your worthiness of love and care is fundamental to your well-being.

  • Emotions heal through validation: Your emotions are valid, and acknowledging them is essential for healing.

  • Courage in self-acceptance: Embracing ourselves with love, flaws and all, is an act of profound courage.

  • Shame fades through empathy: Sharing our stories in a supportive environment free of judgment or shame is transformative.

As your therapist, I am committed to creating a space that feels warm, supportive, curious, and open (free of judgment) where you can explore your experiences, express your feelings and needs, and embark on a journey of self-discovery without fear or restraint. Together, we will navigate the complexities of your inner world.

My Approach to Therapy

My approach to therapy is straight forward, rooted in a strengths model rather than a deficit model. This means I do not see people as broken and I believe everyone has what they need to heal. My role is to help you access your inner strengths.

Curious about what the therapeutic process and therapy sessions entail?

  • Centered on your needs: Sessions are focused on your needs. As your needs evolve, my approach adapts.

  • Goal-oriented: In your initial assessment, we’ll collaboratively develop therapy goals so we’re clear on what you’re working towards.

  • Collaborative: The entire journey is a team effort! You and I will meet in the middle and work together.

  • (Flexibly) structured: There is a structure to sessions so you know what to expect and how to prepare, but there is no preset agenda meaning I don’t tell you what to discuss. I empower and encourage my clients to bring their focus and intentions to each session.

  • Exploratory: I am curious by nature and trade. I’ll help you explore and investigate yourself—thoughts, feelings, needs, desires, fantasies, fears, beliefs, and behaviors—to deepen self-understanding.

  • Social justice oriented and trauma-informed: I recognize that there are systemic factors and inequalities that contribute to mental health challenges. We may discuss these challenges. We may explore the interconnected nature of identities, privilege, discrimination, community, and the impact of trauma on the psyche.

  • Feedback-informed: Research shows that your relationship with your therapist, how you feel about them, is most important, which is why I like to ask my clients for feedback to ensure that it continues to feel like a good fit beyond the initial assessment.

  • Culturally sensitive: Your identity and cultural background are important considerations in understanding your unique life story. I encourage open dialogue and exploration to honor your individuality.

I often receive great feedback from new and former clients about my approach. Many folks have shared with me that their previous therapeutic experience felt directionless, confusing, anxiety-inducing, and invalidating, among many other things. My ultimate goal when starting a relationship with a client (and ending one) is that the person walks away feeling heard, seen, and understood. I have found that this approach has helped me provide a safe and honest space for clients who are curious about themselves and interested in self-discovery and development.

If you’re interested in booking an introductory call with me, please click here. During our call, feel free to ask me to expand on any of these points, I am happy to do so. Thanks for reading!